Is There A Way To Mend a Broken Heart?

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Medical science uses medicine and surgery to deal with heart problems. But is there a way for me to mend my broken heart?

I made a difficult decision today, which has saddened me, but I had no other choice.

In addition to dealing with ongoing health and mobility issues, I submitted my resignation to the Vancouver Venturers Walking Club, which broke my heart.

Vancouver Venturers Walk September 2022 photo by Lynn

I am too upset to write about it now, but I will continue this story in a few days when my spirit improves.

However, I will remain friends with my many friends in the club.

Rumor mills being what they are – I wanted to let everyone know from me that I resigned and will give the reason in an update.

But I have always avoided speaking when upset – to avoid saying something I would regret.

The same goes for writing when I am upset.

As the saying goes, “Say it, forget it. Write it, regret it.”

Danny, didn’t you also resign from two other walking clubs in the past?

Since when did you become a quitter?

Spanky

Yes, Spanky, I felt it was necessary to leave the Surrey Trekkers and the Northwest Tulip Trekkers because I was disrespected and felt my presence in those clubs was not appreciated.

So I did the correct thing – and resigned.

The same thing happened to me today with a member of the executive committee member who I had contacted.

Maybe, in a few days, I’ll compile the details in an update, but then again, I might decide to move on without pointing the finger at anyone.

I am too upset to think about anything else today.

It began as a simple email – asking the person in charge of the clothing about a shirt I had ordered several months ago but never received.

And then, it became a series of denials that left me feeling like I was being accused of making it all up.

I did not need the shirt or the $30 it cost – but it is a matter of principle.

Why would I try to rip the club off? I thought he was a friend and knew me well enough to know I would never lie.

He said he remembered giving it to me at a February 20th walk and was positive about it. I replied that I was sick in bed on that date and sent him a link to the story I wrote about it.

Then he said it was during December 2022, but on the date he cited, I was immobile due to health problems.

I asked why he didn’t have a list of purchasers and then a tick mark beside their name and the date it was given.

His memory was wrong in this case – twice.

It bothered me that he would not admit his mistake and insisted that he gave me the shirt.

But rather than argue with him – I decided to withdraw from the club because I would not feel comfortable being in his presence.

And that affects the harmony of the club – Chi Energy, so it was best that I say goodbye and resign.

I forgave him in my heart – as I do to anyone I feel has hurt or betrayed me.

But he is on the executive, and I do not want to make him uncomfortable around me because he does so much for the club.

The world will go on – and I wish him happiness.

I love the Vancouver Venturers Walking Club and have always enjoyed associating with the members.

Doug and Nancy have done an impressive job bringing the club to its awesome state, and I have always felt like they are family to me (and still do) and will continue to be friends with the club members.

Recently, I purchased two memberships as gifts for my friends Kevin and Tricia Clark (my photographers).

And I know they will enjoy being in the club.

UPDATE – Monday, April 17th (Midnight)

I have been having a terrible time dealing with my recent decision to leave the walking club, and in retrospect, I should not have been so certain that I was right.

I keep asking myself if I did get the shirt but misplaced it before I got into my car.

Or maybe I had to use the washroom and left it on the counter.

Jerry would not make up a story any more than I would make up one.

And I do have a memory problem at times when it comes to finding my car keys – so I wish to apologize to Jerry for my anger and to everyone if, for some reason, I misplaced the shirt.

I would rather believe that than hold the hurt inside anymore.

So, I am making this public apology to Jerry – and ask that he please try to find it in his heart to forgive my disgusting lack of respect and for betraying his trust and friendship, which I have always valued.

I cannot make excuses for my behavior – I don’t know why I reacted the way I did. I don’t know where the anger came from, and that is the truth!

Jerry, once again – I am deeply sorry.

However, I will not be a club member anymore – and I feel bad about everything – because I loved the Venturers so much.

UPDATE – Sunday, April 30th (9:30 AM)

I went to the start of the club’s scheduled walk at the Thompson Community Center in Richmond this morning, and the first thing I did was hug Doug Jackson, the club president, for not accepting my resignation.

The next person I hugged was Jerry, the club’s vice president, and he graciously accepted my apologies. He had already emailed me earlier and said he had forgiven me – but I wanted to thank him in person.

He is a class act, and I love him and Markku.

But it was a cold morning, and I did not get dressed for walking or being outside – other than walking to and from the parking lot.

I kept getting cold shivers just seeing everybody in winter clothing and felt out of place for a moment or two because I received so many smiles, hugs, and love from everyone – including the many new club members I met for the first time!

If you do a close-up of the group photo – you’ll probably notice that my ‘high beams’ (nipples) are showing! LOL

Hopefully, I’ll be feeling better soon, so I can resume my walking with the Venturers,

Meanwhile, I’ll practice by walking the pier in White Rock and then the complete length of the promenade.

Never Give Up on your dreams!

Dedicated to Jerry

I hope my stories are a gift to your head and heart.

Hugs,

Danny

Today’s tune from Danny’s library (purchased):

Take It To The Limit – Eagles

All alone at the end of the evening
When the bright lights have faded to blue
I was thinking ’bout a woman who might have loved me
I never knew

You know I’ve always been a dreamer
(Spent my life running ’round)
And it’s so hard to change
(Can’t seem to settle down)
But the dreams I’ve seen lately
Keep on turning out and burning out
And turning out the same

So, put me on a highway
And show me a sign
And take it to the limit one more time

You can spend all your time making money
You can spend all your love-making time
If it all fell to pieces tomorrow
Would you still be mine?

And when you’re looking for your freedom
(Nobody seems to care)
And you can’t find the door
(Can’t find it anywhere)
When there’s nothing to believe in
Still you’re coming back, you’re running back,
You’re coming back for more

So, put me on a highway
And show me a sign
And take it to the limit one more time

Take it to the limit
Take it to the limit
Take it to the limit one more time

Take it to the limit
Take it to the limit
Take it to the limit one more time

Take it to the limit
Take it to the limit
Take it to the limit one more time…

Songwriters: Glenn Lewis Frey / Don Henley / Randy Meisner
Take It to the Limit lyrics © Cass County Music, Red Cloud Music, Warner Chappell Music

Here’s a link to songs Danny is listening to now: Drowning in a Tub Full of Tunes

4 responses to “Is There A Way To Mend a Broken Heart?”

  1. I hope you are doing well and I was surprised and sorry you resigned from the walking club. I know the walking club and the friendships established were a big part of your life so I am saddened to hear you resigned. I am still a member and hoping to join a couple of walks while I’m there for the next month.
    Great photos and you are as handsome as ever. What a super photo of you and Annette.
    You are truly an inspiration to me and I especially love your choice of music. You are an incredible man and I hope one day maybe our paths will cross again.
    Stay well and wish you continued health as best as it can be on your journey we call life!!!👍🙏
    Thinking of you and hugs
    Jan

  2. Thanks Dan – I hope you keep on rocking/walking with your pals.
    Hugs, Allan (Spanky) Ryan

  3. You’re a classy man my friend. ❤️

  4. Good to know you share your hugs around!
    Here’s another one from me.
    I just hugged you in my thoughts…
    I hope you felt the squeeze!
    Hugs,
    Ruth

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